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  • Steven Mercer
    Steven Mercer


    How would you like your lifestyle to look?


    Now could be your time to think about it.


    During the days I was working every hour in the day all I could think about was what I could do if only I had more time. I would read novels, go out to dinner with my friends, go for a pint with a mate, start cycling etc etc etc.

    Ring any bells?

    So at the moment we are in strange times and you have been handed on a plate that time you craved, but… you have huge restrictions as to how you can use it?!

    For example looking back at my list, the novels is all I could really start doing. However this time could be a great time to reflect, a great time to get to grips with what is important to you.

    I’ve already talked about work / life balance. It should be agiven but it is still something we have to fight for. This time gives you the time to think about…


    How would a social life look for you?

    The things you dream of when you’re in the middle of service. Dinner with friends? Time and energy to ride a bike?

    What makes you feel good?


    What you want to fight for?

    This reflection is important I think. I burnt out from such a job that gave me no balance about 7 years ago. I didn’t think about what was happening and I actually suffered a lot of anxiety from having all this extra time and no idea what to do with it.

    In essence I craved going back to that life.

    That’s not balance.

    But it takes work to make such a huge lifestyle change. Those friends you used to hang out with on a Friday night have no doubt moved on. You wouldn’t fall straight back in.

    But over time I have found what a life balance is for me. Its taken to this day. I enjoy slowing down. I enjoy running, I enjoy practicing and studying yoga. I enjoy cooking, eating and drinking with loved ones.


    Why you want to fight for it?

    This is so important and for you maybe needs to come before the what. For me I knew that a life so far out of balance was simply unsustainable. I had myself in my 40’s or 50’s doing the same thing. I also knew there had to be more to life. I knew I needed change. For you it could be any number of reasons. Your family? Your mental and physical health?


    How you are going to fight for it?

    Here’ s the big one. It is going take some serious courage to see these changes. As I said above, I struggled, I really struggled.


    The first step is to commit to the change. Mean it.


    What do you need from your work life to make this happen? Can your current job accommodate your dreams? Can you speak with managers or whoever is going to make this happen?


    You’ve done it. You’ve made the change. Be ready to know that its not going to be as easy as you thought. More space means more time to think. Its so important to take things slowly, be non judgemental or yourself.

    As ever, I don’t have the answers fro you. I do however have a lot of experience of thinking about these questions. I still am. I have never found the balance of having a healthy social life. So we are all in this together. Thinking and improving our lives together.



    Edited by Steven Mercer

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    lovely article Steven,it show how empty we can become.Chefs who simply want to cook,cook,and cook,work ,eat sleep..being "hooked", not good..I know this more than most

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